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Retirement progress report

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Things are fine. I am learning to redefine myself and try doing things the give me pleasure, happiness and purpose besides making money. I am starting physical training PT at local college and will offer my services to 55 and over facing retirement and medical challenges. I am also starting to expand my cooking skills and will be volunteering at a local kitchen . Last but not least i am working on my next book, “Work book on how to retire successfully.

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You spent 40 plus years paying attention to and planning your Breadwinning career. Work-related issues and problems filled your mind on the job and when at home. Now that is gone, but your mind has not moved on. Just like your planning for retirement where you were given financial advice on saving for retirement. You maintained a 401K, set aside money from your family for your own future use. You may have even gotten get help by engaging a financial planner to guide your investing. You were told that hobbies and vacations will fill your days with happiness and purpose. It may, but not likely. The book “Retirement How NOT to end up Tired, Bored and Lonely” is an excellent introduction to this next part of your life. In retirement, you need to rediscover yourself and your new purpose.

Coaching and your Comfort Zone

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Coaching Areas
The challenge of fitness is the process of a paradigm shift on how you see yourself, people and things around you. You have made real choices in the first part of your life that have supported you fulfilling your objectives e.g. family, income, etc., you get to make them again. Couching is meant to enable you by recovering your body, clearing your mind and to give you the tools so you are aware of alternatives so you can choose again.

In the past, it was family, career, and money. Now it is a pleasure, happiness, and purpose.

Why coaching?
Simply said, it is because you have never been here before. All your experience, skills and motivation up to now has been focused on past journeys. During your life, you had parents, teachers, mentors experienced friends all working with you to help you transition from childhood to adolescence and adulthood.

When you retired you are told work on your hobbies or in other words stay out of the way. The trouble with this is you are still coherent. You need companionship and purpose to feel whole. Setting around collecting stamps was good as a break from active life, it is not enough if it is the only thing you have. Without companionship and purpose, you are just waiting to die.

You can continue to live your life working, collecting money and taking a vacation until mother nature calls and you a no longer physically able to continue. An alternative is to rediscover who you are now and just like you did as a teenager, experience new things and make new choices.

Retirement coaching helps you through this journey by helping found your body, discover you are what you eat, clear your mind of other peoples lives and have a clear and open view of yourself and step out of your patterns to discover friendships and purpose.

Coaching Agenda
In your teen age years, you made so many choices types of food, how you thought about your life and what things you liked or did not like to do. You where guided to opportunities my those around you preparing you to become an adult.

Retirement coaching takes you on the same journey with one key exception. On this journey you choose the destination that gives you pleasure, happiness and purpose in your retirement years. You have already earned money, raised a family and meet all the requirements of being grown up. Now you get to choose from all the alternatives, but first you must see and experience them, a paradigm shift.

Coaching covers eating regime (not dieting), breathing, meditation, exercise program to help you find your body and physical abilities that will support finding a tribe of people to enjoy your retirement years.

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You spent 40 plus years paying attention to and planning your Breadwinning career. Work-related issues and problems filled your mind on the job and when at home. Now that is gone, but your mind has not moved on. Just like your planning for retirement where you were given financial advice on saving for retirement. You maintained a 401K, set aside money from your family for your own future use. You may have even gotten get help by engaging a financial planner to guide your investing. You were told that hobbies and vacations will fill your days with happiness and purpose. It may, but not likely. The book “Retirement How NOT to end up Tired, Bored and Lonely” is an excellent introduction to this next part of your life. In retirement, you need to rediscover yourself and your new purpose.

Training for Retirement – Overview

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Retirement is as a second chance at life. An opportunity to take the paths not followed and to answer the unanswered questions about life’s choices. You need to enjoy the process as part of your life rather than a task or what you are told are the “suppose to’s of retirement that are designed to keep you out of the way. There are many paths you can choose:

1.Continue to work
2.Activates fill the day
3.Grandparent-Dom
4.Waiting
5.Paradigm shift of how your see yourself and what give you pleasure, happiness and purpose

Each of these are covered in the book Retirement – How not to end up Lonely, Tired and Bored by Joel E. Smith, available on amazon.
Coaching for retirement the process of discovery and change to help you deal with the reality of retirement. It is a rediscovery and awareness rather than a journey to somewhere. It is about seeing yourself as you are today and the transition to find pleasure, happiness, and purpose. It excluding drugs, sex, and conspicuous consumption and focuses on basics of your life eating, breathing, mental awareness and physical activity all in support of finding your please, happiness and purpose.

The training is centered around
Low stress, low impact multiple muscle group exercises that can be part of your life
Carbohydrate/sugar reduction program
oNo calorie restriction eating regime
oGradual intermittent fasting
Meditation development centered around clearing your mind and obtaining focus on self
How to find the tribe that supports your pleasure, happiness and purpose

Training helps you build self-improvement and monitoring skills that you will use to empower your retirement choices. Training centers around the following areas:
Breathing
Posture
Walking
Core development
Multiple muscle group activities
Expanding your comfort zone

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You spent 40 plus years paying attention to and planning your Breadwinning career. Work-related issues and problems filled your mind on the job and when at home. Now that is gone, but your mind has not moved on. Just like your planning for retirement where you were given financial advice on saving for retirement. You maintained a 401K, set aside money from your family for your own future use. You may have even gotten get help by engaging a financial planner to guide your investing. You were told that hobbies and vacations will fill your days with happiness and purpose. It may, but not likely. The book “Retirement How NOT to end up Tired, Bored and Lonely” is an excellent introduction to this next part of your life. In retirement, you need to rediscover yourself and your new purpose.

Retirement – Fear Uncertainty and Doubt (FUD)

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Fear, Uncertainty and Doubt (FUD) stops most of us from even showing up.
A thought stream.

What should I do? Should I do this or that? How do I know if this or that is what gives me pleasure and happiness?
How can I start this or that not knowing if it is good for my soul?
Can I ever know so not to suffer the guilt and blame of failure?
Should I risk and try, never knowing if success or failure will be the outcome?

95 % of success in life is determined by showing up.

You can’t know if something will give you pleasure, happiness and purpose unless you experience it. Show up, try it and then try it again.

No one starts at the top. It is the journey that we remember.


Click to buy: “Retirement How NOT to end up Tired, Bored and Lonely”

You spent 40 plus years paying attention to and planning your Breadwinning career. Work-related issues and problems filled your mind on the job and when at home. Now that is gone, but your mind has not moved on. Just like your planning for retirement where you were given financial advice on saving for retirement. You maintained a 401K, set aside money from your family for your own future use. You may have even gotten get help by engaging a financial planner to guide your investing. You were told that hobbies and vacations will fill your days with happiness and purpose. It may, but not likely. The book “Retirement How NOT to end up Tired, Bored and Lonely” is an excellent introduction to this next part of your life. In retirement, you need to rediscover yourself and your new purpose.

Retirement has started. What do I do? Part IV – Try, Try Again.

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You have retired. Your old life is gone. No amount of money can bring it back. This is a time of reconciliation, re-organization and rebirth. You need to get up. get dressed and go out into the world and try new efforts to find you pleasure, happiness and purpose for this part of your life. This poem touches on “what you need to do!”

It’s a lesson you should heed,
Try, try again.

If at first you don’t succeed,
Try, try again.

Then your courage should appear,
For if you will persevere,
You will conquer, never fear,
Try, try again.

Once or twice, though you should fail,
Try, try again.

If you would at last prevail,
Try, try again.

If we strive, ’tis no disgrace,
Though we do not win the race;
What should you do in that case?
Try, try again.

If you find your task is hard,
Try, try again.

Time will bring you your reward,
Try, try again.

All that other folk can do,
Why, with patience, should not you?
Only keep this rule in view,
Try, try again.

Fear not you have already succeeded at his once before, second time is always easier. a YouTube video to inspire your efforts —)))

Try it.

You spent 40 plus years paying attention to and planning your Breadwinning career. Work-related issues and problems filled your mind on the job and when at home. Now that is gone, but your mind has not moved on. Just like your planning for retirement where you were given financial advice on saving for retirement. You maintained a 401K, set aside money from your family for your own future use. You may have even gotten get help by engaging a financial planner to guide your investing. You were told that hobbies and vacations will fill your days with happiness and purpose. It may, but not likely. The book “Retirement How NOT to end up Tired, Bored and Lonely” is an excellent introduction to this next part of your life. In retirement, you need to rediscover yourself and your new purpose.

Retirement has started. What do I do? Just say Hi! Part III

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The power of Hello, Good Morning, Please and Thank You.

You need to get up and get out of the house. Yes, out of the house. Go for a walk, bike ride or shop where there are other people. If walking, make eye contact and say Good Morning. Say Hi my name is Joel, I was wondering if you could direct me, guide me, spare a moment to talk.

Power of Hello.

The true benefits of saying Hi

You will feel the difference after the very first day. As you develop your style, the simple “Hello Joel” makes you feel great and who knows what it can lead too.

You spent 40 plus years paying attention to and planning your Breadwinning career. Work-related issues and problems filled your mind on the job and when at home. Now that is gone, but your mind has not moved on. Just like your planning for retirement where you were given financial advice on saving for retirement. You maintained a 401K, set aside money from your family for your own future use. You may have even gotten get help by engaging a financial planner to guide your investing. You were told that hobbies and vacations will fill your days with happiness and purpose. It may, but not likely. The book “Retirement How NOT to end up Tired, Bored and Lonely” is an excellent introduction to this next part of your life. In retirement, you need to rediscover yourself and your new purpose.

Retirement – Creating a tribe and sharing example

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Here is a link to an article on how a coffee group turned into a help organization. I would not be surprised if these guys also do other things together, besides give free advice.

Great read.

https://www.washingtonpost.com/lifestyle/2018/09/27/self-proclaimed-old-coots-offer-life-advice-farmers-market-their-slogan-its-probably-bad-advice-its-free/

Just in case giving advice is new to you. Here is a YouTube video on how to give advice

You spent 40 plus years paying attention to and planning your Breadwinning career. Work-related issues and problems filled your mind on the job and when at home. Now that is gone, but your mind has not moved on. Just like your planning for retirement where you were given financial advice on saving for retirement. You maintained a 401K, set aside money from your family for your own future use. You may have even gotten get help by engaging a financial planner to guide your investing. You were told that hobbies and vacations will fill your days with happiness and purpose. It may, but not likely. The book “Retirement How NOT to end up Tired, Bored and Lonely” is an excellent introduction to this next part of your life. In retirement, you need to rediscover yourself and your new purpose.

Retirement has started, so where do I go? What do i do? Part II.

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You walk outside your home and you are lost. No place to go, Isolated and feeling anxious about not having alternatives. Here is what others have tried as transition into retirement to avoid the loneliness and depression of not having a life.

Shop for sales
Go to retail stores and get daily sales. This gets you out of the house, to be among people and interact with store clerks. Your family will appreciate what you buy. If not you can return the items until you understand their needs.

Estate and Garage Sales
Go to estate and garage sales and start collecting lamps, small statues, bottles of cologne, marbles, trains, etc. then sell them on eBay to cover your costs plus profit for your wife. You get to work with people on both ends and you set time and effort within your limits. See if you can join an ebay club in your area or a local training program.

Cook
Take over cooking dinners. Yes, be Mister Mom. Cook, shop for groceries, clean the refrigerator, prepare the meals, expand your comfort zone into new areas. This will be appreciated by all.

Physical Activity
Use an e-bike and go riding. Yes, take the physical challenge out and meet people riding. The idea is to go out and meet other riders rather then physical activity for muscle building or sweating. Join a bike club. You can go on A+ rides with the e-bike and not have to turn yourself inside out physically. You will be pleasantly surprised how much fun and purpose you will have.

Part Time Job
Be a school bus driver for 2 to 4 hours a day. Home Depot and Lowes offers part time work where you can pick your hours. Get out of the house, you get a great feeling of accomplishment by helping other people and get a little extra money to boot.

The objective is to get out of the house and do something that gets you with people doing something that you enjoy. You already had a career and earned lots of money. The direction is to find people you can make friends with.

Great video with good overview and some excellent recommendations on how to find good opportunities

You spent 40 plus years paying attention to and planning your Breadwinning career. Work-related issues and problems filled your mind on the job and when at home. Now that is gone, but your mind has not moved on. Just like your planning for retirement where you were given financial advice on saving for retirement. You maintained a 401K, set aside money from your family for your own future use. You may have even gotten get help by engaging a financial planner to guide your investing. You were told that hobbies and vacations will fill your days with happiness and purpose. It may, but not likely. The book “Retirement How NOT to end up Tired, Bored and Lonely” is an excellent introduction to this next part of your life. In retirement, you need to rediscover yourself and your new purpose.

Retirement – Getting started!

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I can’t get started. My day is centered around the TV. Watching the news over coffee and then I make myself a good breakfast, but instead of an energy boost, I find myself again watching the TV. Later I do something for the house or take a trip to the store to pick up a single item. In the afternoon, I will keep my wife company and go out for lunch and do some shoping. She shops while I find a place to sit. My chair and I are becoming one. My get up and go has got up and left.

Retirement is not a time of rest, it is a time to expand your pleasure, happiness and purpose beyond earning money.
Get up, go out and do it.
By showing up you will be successful. Allow yourself to try. Trust your core values of a successful life. Great YouTube video on making it happen:

This YouTube touches on values that are you.

You spent 40 plus years paying attention to and planning your Breadwinning career. Work-related issues and problems filled your mind on the job and when at home. Now that is gone, but your mind has not moved on. Just like your planning for retirement where you were given financial advice on saving for retirement. You maintained a 401K, set aside money from your family for your own future use. You may have even gotten get help by engaging a financial planner to guide your investing. You were told that hobbies and vacations will fill your days with happiness and purpose. It may, but not likely. The book “Retirement How NOT to end up Tired, Bored and Lonely” is an excellent introduction to this next part of your life. In retirement, you need to rediscover yourself and your new purpose.

Retirement – Some thoughts on how loneliness, depression lead to suicide

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In this journey of retirement, there is more than just money. The obligation and challenge of supporting your family was your purpose, that which gave you a connection and meaning to your life.
You are challenged by changes in your core view of how you spent the last 40 plus years that is now gone.
You need to reinvent yourself just like in the beginning. Except now you have the added challenge of not having to earn money.

Independent wealth is not necessarily a benefit.

A YouTube video on a man’s journey from depression to suicidal thoughts to reconnecting with his tribe and purpose.

You spent 40 plus years paying attention to and planning your Breadwinning career. Work-related issues and problems filled your mind on the job and when at home. Now that is gone, but your mind has not moved on. Just like your planning for retirement where you were given financial advice on saving for retirement. You maintained a 401K, set aside money from your family for your own future use. You may have even gotten get help by engaging a financial planner to guide your investing. You were told that hobbies and vacations will fill your days with happiness and purpose. It may, but not likely. The book “Retirement How NOT to end up Tired, Bored and Lonely” is an excellent introduction to this next part of your life. In retirement, you need to rediscover yourself and your new purpose.