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Meditation – Finding your true self vs looking good

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In retirement you have left behind your role of provider and head of household. You are now a 60+ year old adultescent looking for friends and purpose that is centered around your pleasures and purposes. Just like you were as a teenager. The challenge is to find those pleasures and activities that give you pleasure, happiness and purpose.

As a teenager you sought friends and activities to share with them.

A video by Tony Robbins on finding yourself (your needs) and creating a blueprint for retirement so that your second life is as rewarding as your first.

Question: What is your blueprint of retirement? Continue reading →

Retirement – Acquaintance or Friend – Loneliness

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A friend or an acquaintance can make the difference between during retirement.

A friend is someone who you have:
–Shared a meal with you recently
–When called will come
–May not agree with you, but always tells the truth

Ask yourself, how many friends do I have?

The only thing keeping you from being happy is the belief that you are alone.- Anne Drapper (Mad men)

All the people wo you pay for service, work with gym junkies that fill your day are most likely acquaintances. A short story to bring the point home.

I locked myself out of my car at YMCA. I asked a gym buddy, someone I have had conversations with to give me a ride home for the spare key. His response, you can go inside, and the people can help you. The financial advisors who help you save money and help plan for your happy life, most likely won’t give you a ride home

A video to help.

Retirement -What happens when it is just money

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We save, work with planners and invest in 401K’s for our retirement. All good advice, but is it enough? Let’s look at what happened to these lottery winners who could instantly retire with seemly unlimited moneys to fund their retirement activities. Here are some Youtube videos about people who retire with a bunch of money.

How do your family, acquaintances and friends view you as a none working person with money. Like a lottery winner?

Here more how your acquaintances and even family see you as retired with money!

Retirement – Carbohydrate toxicity (Why change eating regime.)

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Many of us entering retirement immediately recognize our inability to do simple life activities, getting out of a chair or walking up a set of stairs. Our body has given us great service all these years, and now needs to be found. We have used high sugar and carbohydrate foods to maintain our energy and mental awareness to do our “Big Money Career”. This use of food drugs kept us energized but has taken its toll on our body.

This TED talk YouTube video talks about the TOXICITY in carbohydrate toxicity. This is the scientific and medical foundation to the low carbohydrate recommendations in the eating regime covered in the book “Retirement: How Not to be Lonely, Tired and Bored.”

You have had a successful life, saved in a 401K for retirement, and even worked with professionals for financial planning advice. Just like you spent time and money fixing up your home, your body can use some help as well.

Retirement – Journey to Fitness – Are you fit?

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Here is a simple test to see how fit you are. You will see that mobility is key to successful retirement. The test is not pass/fail; it is more to make you aware of your body. You need to see yourself for who and what you are. No judgment or evaluation, just clear vision. The purpose is to help you look at your body and your fitness condition, so you can guide your choices going forward.

Can you get up from a straight back chair without using your upper body to stand up? Yes, you have spent the last 30 plus years getting into the car, sitting at a desk and pushing a pencil. Now stand up. Not so easy? If you found the test a challenge, it should guide your choices.

You have saved for retirement, even hired a financial advisor to manage your 401K to guide you to a successful retirement. It would be sad that you spend it sitting in a chair.

Fitness is made up of two parts. What you eat and moving your body, e.g.,walking.

Here is a short video on eating regime, Ketosis –

Video of how to walk. We recommend limiting to 45 minutes per day maximum.

Retirement Video- Thailand – endless sex, drinking and parties – but no friends, no tribe

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Some believe that financial independence results in a happy retirement filled with unlimited sex, parties, and drinks.  Here is a video on Thailand by an American living in the middle of the party capital of the world.  Pattaya, is the city with the most sex workers in Thailand.   The biggest downside is also the biggest distraction from your life.  It is just conspicuous consumption rather than activity with a purpose.

Some quotes from the video:

“Not just the tourist things, but do things with guys with a common interest, a friend.”

“Even if you speak the language, you will never be one of them.” (Member of the tribe)

This video narrated by a retiree and about midway you will hear him say that he “wants to be with and do things with friends.”  

Link to video – The struggles of a man living in Bangkok (Pattaya same name)

Retirement – “All you need is money,” is not true.

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This book tells the story of denial, procrastination, uncertainty, and doubt that you go through as you approach and enter retirement.   The viewpoint taken is that of the principal wage earner. The chapters focus on alternative paths that can be taken and why the recommendation” all you need is money,” is not true.  It is also a must-read for spouses of retirees to better understand the severe impact that retirement has on their partner.

During your career, you are given financial advice on saving for retirement. You maintain a 401K, set aside money from your family for your own future use.  You may even get help by engaging a financial planner to guide your investing.  You are told that hobbies and vacations will fill your days with happiness and purpose. It may, but not likely.

Typical questions once you have retired!

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  • Has your sense of purpose disappeared with your job?
  • Is your spouse telling you to stop hanging around the house?
  • Has your family moved on while you were at work?
  • All that money and why am I still so lonely?
  • Ah SH*T – Now what do I do?

Fear not, this is all normal and expected.

.  This book takes you step by step in seeing your self and your world around you with a new vision, a “paradigm shift” so you can choose the path that gives you pleasure, purpose, and tribal involvement.

The book is a must-read for spouses of retires to understand better the severe impact that retirement has on their partner.