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Retirement has started. What do I do? Part IV – Try, Try Again.

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You have retired. Your old life is gone. No amount of money can bring it back. This is a time of reconciliation, re-organization and rebirth. You need to get up. get dressed and go out into the world and try new efforts to find you pleasure, happiness and purpose for this part of your life. This poem touches on “what you need to do!”

It’s a lesson you should heed,
Try, try again.

If at first you don’t succeed,
Try, try again.

Then your courage should appear,
For if you will persevere,
You will conquer, never fear,
Try, try again.

Once or twice, though you should fail,
Try, try again.

If you would at last prevail,
Try, try again.

If we strive, ’tis no disgrace,
Though we do not win the race;
What should you do in that case?
Try, try again.

If you find your task is hard,
Try, try again.

Time will bring you your reward,
Try, try again.

All that other folk can do,
Why, with patience, should not you?
Only keep this rule in view,
Try, try again.

Fear not you have already succeeded at his once before, second time is always easier. a YouTube video to inspire your efforts —)))

Try it.

You spent 40 plus years paying attention to and planning your Breadwinning career. Work-related issues and problems filled your mind on the job and when at home. Now that is gone, but your mind has not moved on. Just like your planning for retirement where you were given financial advice on saving for retirement. You maintained a 401K, set aside money from your family for your own future use. You may have even gotten get help by engaging a financial planner to guide your investing. You were told that hobbies and vacations will fill your days with happiness and purpose. It may, but not likely. The book “Retirement How NOT to end up Tired, Bored and Lonely” is an excellent introduction to this next part of your life. In retirement, you need to rediscover yourself and your new purpose.

Retirement has started. What do I do? Just say Hi! Part III

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The power of Hello, Good Morning, Please and Thank You.

You need to get up and get out of the house. Yes, out of the house. Go for a walk, bike ride or shop where there are other people. If walking, make eye contact and say Good Morning. Say Hi my name is Joel, I was wondering if you could direct me, guide me, spare a moment to talk.

Power of Hello.

The true benefits of saying Hi

You will feel the difference after the very first day. As you develop your style, the simple “Hello Joel” makes you feel great and who knows what it can lead too.

You spent 40 plus years paying attention to and planning your Breadwinning career. Work-related issues and problems filled your mind on the job and when at home. Now that is gone, but your mind has not moved on. Just like your planning for retirement where you were given financial advice on saving for retirement. You maintained a 401K, set aside money from your family for your own future use. You may have even gotten get help by engaging a financial planner to guide your investing. You were told that hobbies and vacations will fill your days with happiness and purpose. It may, but not likely. The book “Retirement How NOT to end up Tired, Bored and Lonely” is an excellent introduction to this next part of your life. In retirement, you need to rediscover yourself and your new purpose.

What is a real friend?

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Friends are not acquaintances. A friend is someone who you can

-Trust to tell you the truth, even if they disagree with you
-Will come when called
-Shared a meal and
-Shared your feeling and thoughts without judgement

What is a real friend?

Do you have a friend?

Doing the financial planning, savings in a 401K, getting the best financial advice is only part of a successful retirement.

Retirement – Journey to Fitness – Are you fit?

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Here is a simple test to see how fit you are. You will see that mobility is key to successful retirement. The test is not pass/fail; it is more to make you aware of your body. You need to see yourself for who and what you are. No judgment or evaluation, just clear vision. The purpose is to help you look at your body and your fitness condition, so you can guide your choices going forward.

Can you get up from a straight back chair without using your upper body to stand up? Yes, you have spent the last 30 plus years getting into the car, sitting at a desk and pushing a pencil. Now stand up. Not so easy? If you found the test a challenge, it should guide your choices.

You have saved for retirement, even hired a financial advisor to manage your 401K to guide you to a successful retirement. It would be sad that you spend it sitting in a chair.

Fitness is made up of two parts. What you eat and moving your body, e.g.,walking.

Here is a short video on eating regime, Ketosis –

Video of how to walk. We recommend limiting to 45 minutes per day maximum.

Retirement – “All you need is money,” is not true.

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This book tells the story of denial, procrastination, uncertainty, and doubt that you go through as you approach and enter retirement.   The viewpoint taken is that of the principal wage earner. The chapters focus on alternative paths that can be taken and why the recommendation” all you need is money,” is not true.  It is also a must-read for spouses of retirees to better understand the severe impact that retirement has on their partner.

During your career, you are given financial advice on saving for retirement. You maintain a 401K, set aside money from your family for your own future use.  You may even get help by engaging a financial planner to guide your investing.  You are told that hobbies and vacations will fill your days with happiness and purpose. It may, but not likely.

Typical questions once you have retired!

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  • Has your sense of purpose disappeared with your job?
  • Is your spouse telling you to stop hanging around the house?
  • Has your family moved on while you were at work?
  • All that money and why am I still so lonely?
  • Ah SH*T – Now what do I do?

Fear not, this is all normal and expected.

.  This book takes you step by step in seeing your self and your world around you with a new vision, a “paradigm shift” so you can choose the path that gives you pleasure, purpose, and tribal involvement.

The book is a must-read for spouses of retires to understand better the severe impact that retirement has on their partner.