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Retirement progress report

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Things are fine. I am learning to redefine myself and try doing things the give me pleasure, happiness and purpose besides making money. I am starting physical training PT at local college and will offer my services to 55 and over facing retirement and medical challenges. I am also starting to expand my cooking skills and will be volunteering at a local kitchen . Last but not least i am working on my next book, “Work book on how to retire successfully.

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You spent 40 plus years paying attention to and planning your Breadwinning career. Work-related issues and problems filled your mind on the job and when at home. Now that is gone, but your mind has not moved on. Just like your planning for retirement where you were given financial advice on saving for retirement. You maintained a 401K, set aside money from your family for your own future use. You may have even gotten get help by engaging a financial planner to guide your investing. You were told that hobbies and vacations will fill your days with happiness and purpose. It may, but not likely. The book “Retirement How NOT to end up Tired, Bored and Lonely” is an excellent introduction to this next part of your life. In retirement, you need to rediscover yourself and your new purpose.

Coaching and your Comfort Zone

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Coaching Areas
The challenge of fitness is the process of a paradigm shift on how you see yourself, people and things around you. You have made real choices in the first part of your life that have supported you fulfilling your objectives e.g. family, income, etc., you get to make them again. Couching is meant to enable you by recovering your body, clearing your mind and to give you the tools so you are aware of alternatives so you can choose again.

In the past, it was family, career, and money. Now it is a pleasure, happiness, and purpose.

Why coaching?
Simply said, it is because you have never been here before. All your experience, skills and motivation up to now has been focused on past journeys. During your life, you had parents, teachers, mentors experienced friends all working with you to help you transition from childhood to adolescence and adulthood.

When you retired you are told work on your hobbies or in other words stay out of the way. The trouble with this is you are still coherent. You need companionship and purpose to feel whole. Setting around collecting stamps was good as a break from active life, it is not enough if it is the only thing you have. Without companionship and purpose, you are just waiting to die.

You can continue to live your life working, collecting money and taking a vacation until mother nature calls and you a no longer physically able to continue. An alternative is to rediscover who you are now and just like you did as a teenager, experience new things and make new choices.

Retirement coaching helps you through this journey by helping found your body, discover you are what you eat, clear your mind of other peoples lives and have a clear and open view of yourself and step out of your patterns to discover friendships and purpose.

Coaching Agenda
In your teen age years, you made so many choices types of food, how you thought about your life and what things you liked or did not like to do. You where guided to opportunities my those around you preparing you to become an adult.

Retirement coaching takes you on the same journey with one key exception. On this journey you choose the destination that gives you pleasure, happiness and purpose in your retirement years. You have already earned money, raised a family and meet all the requirements of being grown up. Now you get to choose from all the alternatives, but first you must see and experience them, a paradigm shift.

Coaching covers eating regime (not dieting), breathing, meditation, exercise program to help you find your body and physical abilities that will support finding a tribe of people to enjoy your retirement years.

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You spent 40 plus years paying attention to and planning your Breadwinning career. Work-related issues and problems filled your mind on the job and when at home. Now that is gone, but your mind has not moved on. Just like your planning for retirement where you were given financial advice on saving for retirement. You maintained a 401K, set aside money from your family for your own future use. You may have even gotten get help by engaging a financial planner to guide your investing. You were told that hobbies and vacations will fill your days with happiness and purpose. It may, but not likely. The book “Retirement How NOT to end up Tired, Bored and Lonely” is an excellent introduction to this next part of your life. In retirement, you need to rediscover yourself and your new purpose.

Retirement- – Elevator pitch on the truth of retirement

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The following is an elevator pitch for the book

Retirement – How not to end up lonely, Tired and bored.

Hi, I am joel Smith a recent retiree and have interviewed hundreds of other retires.
Retirement is a big lie. You are sold a story that all you need is a hobby and money. Spending the money will give you pleasure, happiness and purpose during your remaining years.

It is a lie.

This talk tells the story of the chaos of retirement. You experience denial, procrastination, uncertainty, and doubt that you go through as you approach and enter retirement. The talk focuses on alternative paths that can be taken and why the recommendation “all you need is money,” is not true.

We describe how to see yourself in a different light, e.g., a paradigm shift. Things do not change, how you look at them changes. You are retired and have left the principal purpose of your life behind: your career to maintain the financial stability of your family. The approach is to make you aware of the alternatives and help you see them clearly, so you can feel good about your choices.

These are the last years of your life. You have worked hard, supported your family and saved and have an expectation that you will enjoy and prosper during retirement. A fair expectation, but unfortunately, not a true.

You are faced with the real thing, not an urban legend or a marketing blurb from the so-many financial houses on how they can help you live to be 200 years old while you play polo. Until now, you had gotten up every day and gone to work, even when people waiting for you at work wanted to make your life hard, you went to work. Snow, rain, cold and gas shortages, you went to work. Take a moment to appreciate the sense of purpose, accomplishment, passion, and fulfillment that it gave you. Now it is gone!

Talk about going from an active social and productive environment to isolation and chaos! Your career is gone and most likely your body. You are facing a new challenge which will require your body to be there to support you and it is gone.


Click to buy: “Retirement How NOT to end up Tired, Bored and Lonely”

You spent 40 plus years paying attention to and planning your Breadwinning career. Work-related issues and problems filled your mind on the job and when at home. Now that is gone, but your mind has not moved on. Just like your planning for retirement where you were given financial advice on saving for retirement. You maintained a 401K, set aside money from your family for your own future use. You may have even gotten get help by engaging a financial planner to guide your investing. You were told that hobbies and vacations will fill your days with happiness and purpose. It may, but not likely. The book “Retirement How NOT to end up Tired, Bored and Lonely” is an excellent introduction to this next part of your life. In retirement, you need to rediscover yourself and your new purpose.

Retirement – Fear Uncertainty and Doubt (FUD)

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Fear, Uncertainty and Doubt (FUD) stops most of us from even showing up.
A thought stream.

What should I do? Should I do this or that? How do I know if this or that is what gives me pleasure and happiness?
How can I start this or that not knowing if it is good for my soul?
Can I ever know so not to suffer the guilt and blame of failure?
Should I risk and try, never knowing if success or failure will be the outcome?

95 % of success in life is determined by showing up.

You can’t know if something will give you pleasure, happiness and purpose unless you experience it. Show up, try it and then try it again.

No one starts at the top. It is the journey that we remember.


Click to buy: “Retirement How NOT to end up Tired, Bored and Lonely”

You spent 40 plus years paying attention to and planning your Breadwinning career. Work-related issues and problems filled your mind on the job and when at home. Now that is gone, but your mind has not moved on. Just like your planning for retirement where you were given financial advice on saving for retirement. You maintained a 401K, set aside money from your family for your own future use. You may have even gotten get help by engaging a financial planner to guide your investing. You were told that hobbies and vacations will fill your days with happiness and purpose. It may, but not likely. The book “Retirement How NOT to end up Tired, Bored and Lonely” is an excellent introduction to this next part of your life. In retirement, you need to rediscover yourself and your new purpose.

Retirement has started. What do I do? Part IV – Try, Try Again.

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You have retired. Your old life is gone. No amount of money can bring it back. This is a time of reconciliation, re-organization and rebirth. You need to get up. get dressed and go out into the world and try new efforts to find you pleasure, happiness and purpose for this part of your life. This poem touches on “what you need to do!”

It’s a lesson you should heed,
Try, try again.

If at first you don’t succeed,
Try, try again.

Then your courage should appear,
For if you will persevere,
You will conquer, never fear,
Try, try again.

Once or twice, though you should fail,
Try, try again.

If you would at last prevail,
Try, try again.

If we strive, ’tis no disgrace,
Though we do not win the race;
What should you do in that case?
Try, try again.

If you find your task is hard,
Try, try again.

Time will bring you your reward,
Try, try again.

All that other folk can do,
Why, with patience, should not you?
Only keep this rule in view,
Try, try again.

Fear not you have already succeeded at his once before, second time is always easier. a YouTube video to inspire your efforts —)))

Try it.

You spent 40 plus years paying attention to and planning your Breadwinning career. Work-related issues and problems filled your mind on the job and when at home. Now that is gone, but your mind has not moved on. Just like your planning for retirement where you were given financial advice on saving for retirement. You maintained a 401K, set aside money from your family for your own future use. You may have even gotten get help by engaging a financial planner to guide your investing. You were told that hobbies and vacations will fill your days with happiness and purpose. It may, but not likely. The book “Retirement How NOT to end up Tired, Bored and Lonely” is an excellent introduction to this next part of your life. In retirement, you need to rediscover yourself and your new purpose.

Retirement has started. What do I do? Just say Hi! Part III

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The power of Hello, Good Morning, Please and Thank You.

You need to get up and get out of the house. Yes, out of the house. Go for a walk, bike ride or shop where there are other people. If walking, make eye contact and say Good Morning. Say Hi my name is Joel, I was wondering if you could direct me, guide me, spare a moment to talk.

Power of Hello.

The true benefits of saying Hi

You will feel the difference after the very first day. As you develop your style, the simple “Hello Joel” makes you feel great and who knows what it can lead too.

You spent 40 plus years paying attention to and planning your Breadwinning career. Work-related issues and problems filled your mind on the job and when at home. Now that is gone, but your mind has not moved on. Just like your planning for retirement where you were given financial advice on saving for retirement. You maintained a 401K, set aside money from your family for your own future use. You may have even gotten get help by engaging a financial planner to guide your investing. You were told that hobbies and vacations will fill your days with happiness and purpose. It may, but not likely. The book “Retirement How NOT to end up Tired, Bored and Lonely” is an excellent introduction to this next part of your life. In retirement, you need to rediscover yourself and your new purpose.

Retirement – Creating a tribe and sharing example

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Here is a link to an article on how a coffee group turned into a help organization. I would not be surprised if these guys also do other things together, besides give free advice.

Great read.

https://www.washingtonpost.com/lifestyle/2018/09/27/self-proclaimed-old-coots-offer-life-advice-farmers-market-their-slogan-its-probably-bad-advice-its-free/

Just in case giving advice is new to you. Here is a YouTube video on how to give advice

You spent 40 plus years paying attention to and planning your Breadwinning career. Work-related issues and problems filled your mind on the job and when at home. Now that is gone, but your mind has not moved on. Just like your planning for retirement where you were given financial advice on saving for retirement. You maintained a 401K, set aside money from your family for your own future use. You may have even gotten get help by engaging a financial planner to guide your investing. You were told that hobbies and vacations will fill your days with happiness and purpose. It may, but not likely. The book “Retirement How NOT to end up Tired, Bored and Lonely” is an excellent introduction to this next part of your life. In retirement, you need to rediscover yourself and your new purpose.

Retirement – Getting started!

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I can’t get started. My day is centered around the TV. Watching the news over coffee and then I make myself a good breakfast, but instead of an energy boost, I find myself again watching the TV. Later I do something for the house or take a trip to the store to pick up a single item. In the afternoon, I will keep my wife company and go out for lunch and do some shoping. She shops while I find a place to sit. My chair and I are becoming one. My get up and go has got up and left.

Retirement is not a time of rest, it is a time to expand your pleasure, happiness and purpose beyond earning money.
Get up, go out and do it.
By showing up you will be successful. Allow yourself to try. Trust your core values of a successful life. Great YouTube video on making it happen:

This YouTube touches on values that are you.

You spent 40 plus years paying attention to and planning your Breadwinning career. Work-related issues and problems filled your mind on the job and when at home. Now that is gone, but your mind has not moved on. Just like your planning for retirement where you were given financial advice on saving for retirement. You maintained a 401K, set aside money from your family for your own future use. You may have even gotten get help by engaging a financial planner to guide your investing. You were told that hobbies and vacations will fill your days with happiness and purpose. It may, but not likely. The book “Retirement How NOT to end up Tired, Bored and Lonely” is an excellent introduction to this next part of your life. In retirement, you need to rediscover yourself and your new purpose.

Retirement – Making new friends

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Found this great YouTube video on the process of making friends. It is so good, i had to post it so you can clearly see the effort of developing a new life in retirement and how this was all taken care of by your job and family prior to retirement. Enjoy.

You thought the only thing you needed was Money.

You spent 40 plus years paying attention to and planning your Breadwinning career. Work-related issues and problems filled your mind on the job and when at home. Now that is gone, but your mind has not moved on. Just like your planning for retirement where you were given financial advice on saving for retirement. You maintained a 401K, set aside money from your family for your own future use. You may have even gotten get help by engaging a financial planner to guide your investing. You were told that hobbies and vacations will fill your days with happiness and purpose. It may, but not likely. The book “Retirement How NOT to end up Tired, Bored and Lonely” is an excellent introduction to this next part of your life. In retirement you need to rediscover yourself and your new purpose.

Retirement Surprises – Isolation, Depression, Anxiety and Suicide – Part 0 Isolation (The beginning of the end!)

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I have added a beginning to the trilogy of Depression, Anxiety and Suicide, this beginning is Isolation. It is the single event that will start the beginning of the end of your life. Yes, isolation results in greater heart disease, cancer and and is the equivalent of smoking half a pack of cigarettes a day. Here is a National Institute of Health study that details the impact of loneliness. LINK

You have just left behind a full career, a tribal group centered around work and supporting your family. All gone in a blink. The lie of retirement is that you think it is a simple continuation of your life, it is not! It is a new beginning. Remember when you had to go out and find friends, Choose a career where you added value to others’ lives so you could earn a living. Yes, the world did not come to you, you went out to it. In every case you left your home and tried to add value to other people’s lives.

This video talks to the real life experiences of retirees. This is not an easy or small challenge to happiness. It requires your full attention.

The first time you found pleasure, happiness and purpose, your entire tribal network was there to help and support you. You are retired and they are living their lives, raising families, building careers, taking vacations. All busy as one armed paper hangers, just like you were before retirement.

This BBC video really shows how bad it will be unless you step out just like you did in the beginning to redefine your life. Not to earn money or build a family, but to have a tribal network and friends. How will you add value to your community and purpose to your life?

Scary times.

You spent 40 plus years paying attention to and planning your Breadwinning career. Work-related issues and problems filled your mind on the job and when at home. Now that is gone, but your mind has not moved on. Just like your planning for retirement where you were given financial advice on saving for retirement. You maintained a 401K, set aside money from your family for your own future use. You may have even gotten get help by engaging a financial planner to guide your investing. You were told that hobbies and vacations will fill your days with happiness and purpose. It may, but not likely. The book “Retirement How NOT to end up Tired, Bored and Lonely” is an excellent introduction to this next part of your life. In retirement you need to rediscover yourself and your new purpose.